the best you can do is when you're in game, go to the Me tab and choose Encountersfrom there you can choose Restrictions and turn off any kinks you don't want
you yourself can still do these things as you like but npcs typically wont to you... but im sure they will amongst themselves but thats the best i found
I turn off transformation drugs cuz it crashes with the mods i have and spanking subs just for prefrences