full disclosure: i am Autistic and trying to be empathetic, not override your story with my own, just. yknow.
i'm fully nonbinary, right, i'm not a man or a woman i am a Something Else. it's bristling to be compared to my birth gender and gods. gods. everything is "women and nonbinary". "non-men". it's miserable. like. i'm not woman-lite. yes i like a lot of feminine things but that's society's judgment not what gender is. and then i see people going and wishing violence on ALL men, not just the men who take advantage of things.
i'm polyamorous & my currently only partner is a cishet man. "het" in quotes, because he likes me, but i'm mostly an exception to his rule. i like to joke that he's the one decent cishet men and now he's being passed around and has acquired a harem of trans women, as anyone who doesn't mistreat trans people tends to do. i hate the "make men eunuchs" and etc language because that's him, too, and he's kind and in the 5 years i've been with him he's changed for the better, when he was still an incredible person who listened & who cared.
and how does it feel. how does it feel for a trans man to see that. and know either they're included or they're not included because they happen to be trans and then it's like they're not seen as a man, and one of my roommates is a trans man and he deals with that and everyone still calls him "she" because it took him 40+ years to finally stop being terrified of giving him womanhood/girlhood.
it's complicated & frustrating and.
we need more games like this. you've done something amazing with this game, just by having it, just by writing this. and i hope that more people write games like this and address the complicated feelings of -
i'm not a woman but i lost something when i acknowledged that, when i saw that, when it became something i did. i lost the "girls can be just as good as boys" and people see me as a traitor and sometimes i see myself as a traitor. and i'm not even a man! just not a woman.
but none of that is betrayal & none of that is running away. it is running to yourself, running to one's self, and it's okay if it's complicated. if you have to step back. if you have to run and hide. and it's also okay to jump back into things and reinvent yourself and throw off those weights and be shiningly yourself.
idk man your game touched my heart and this post-mortem is giving me so many thoughts and just...
you've done something important. even if it's niche. people will see it. it's the beginning of everything.
that's all.