I don't know what you're talking about. Because I always get into a relationship before dating my BF. You just have to complete their story quest. Which means you've gotta A) be attractive to them so you can get the shower scene. Or B) Solve the Mystery of the Party Milkshakes. And then spend time in the afternoon with them talking about sex. Which eventually gets you the spend the night watching porn scene. That's unlocks the relationship, and allows you to choose where yall want it to go. Which is Friends with benefits, or Dating. You can then choose between Monog, Open, and Poly dating (If you're poly). If you're not poly find someone that is and start dating them. Agree to a poly relationship, and you'll unlock the polyamorous Inclination.