"really willing to work with far right groups to signal boost their bullshit"
Because they are the same. I have no problem to work with myself.
I agree with everything but the last paragraph:
"Which is to say, this isn't a reason men are going down alt- right type pipelines. It never has been."
That is simply not true. There are plenty feminist that are spiteful and misandristic, that openly mock if men decide to show vulnerability. They absolutely contribute to that pipeline, and it is a problem. Men need to call misogynistic crap out in their own group, women must do the same, or else it becomes a perpetual cycle and the culture war just festers further. That's a responsibility we *all* have.
And claiming 'collective shout' is just a brilliant move by the far right, a trojan horse that achieves their goal for them and -as seen by the original reply- fans the culture war, distracting from themselves even further.