I believe the ethics are rather more complicated shades of grey than a simple black-and-white stance.
Firstly, lets consider the creative theft issue. Where does one draw the line on training on other creative works? If I were an art student, would I not study existing art and techniques both ancient and modern? IS there not copyright legislation around 'transformation' and other fair use principles? Just how much would AI-produced art need to differ from the sources before one would consider it 'fair'? If you were to hire the best artist in the group, is that unfair on the other artists because they are simply not as good? Should you be forced to use lower-quality art for your project just to give less-good artists a chance?
I'm not saying yes or no to any of these questions, I'm just pointing out that these are important considerations. Almost every technological advance in history has caused disruption for a subset of the population, but progress for everyone else... we cannot _stop_ that, but we do need to get a lot better at smoothing it out. That's what we need to focus on here.
I think the main problem with AI tools is that everyone is thinking of it as a replacement... including the people using it, the people creating it, and the people against it.
"AI" tools are badly misnamed data analysis tools. From that perspective they are incredibly powerful, and should be used accordingly. We are failing when we greedily try and use them to replace someone, rather than focusing on using them to make someone with the skills better and more efficient at their tasks.
As you said, you use AI to help with code... I'm assuming something like Copilot? Would you rely on it entirely to produce code without checking it? I imagine not, as it's far from anything like reliable. It's powerful only in setting down a foundation for you to build on, and that's how we should be using it.
The real problem is that people are accepting AI slop as 'good enough'. Recognize and demand real quality craftsmanship no matter what tools are used, and the problem goes away.