For your first question, (rot13) vs lbh unir avargl-rvtug svyrf sbhaq ba gur 'uryc' zrah, naq unir sbhaq gur friragrra vgnyvpvfrq yrggref va gung svyr gura V guvax gungf nyy.
For the second question, I'm essentially wondering the same thing. (rot13 again) V qbag guvax vg pna or fbyirq, ohg V qbag xabj jung gur grkg "Lbh qvq lbhe wbo. Gur jbeyq vf fnsre abj." zrnaf. Vf vg cbffvoyl fnlvat gung 'jr' xvyyrq bhefryirf nsgre jr sbhaq bhg gur anzr va gur qernz svyr naq "gur jbeyq vf fnsre" orpnhfr ab-bar ryfr jvyy xabj? V guvax gungf jung Naavr jnf tbvat gb qb jvgu gur tha va gur punccry. Vs fur qvqag qvr ol gur phefr gura nalbar jub erzrzoref ure jbhyq or fnsr. Orsber V fgnegrq glcvat guvf V unq ab vqrnf ohg glcvat znqr zr guvax zber naq guvf znxrf gur zbfg frafr gb zr. Nygubhtu V pbhyq or zvffvat fbzrguvat(f).