I understand if they didn't label the game an Otome and left it alone as a VN. That's 100% completely understandable and I'd be the arsehole to hop on a soapbox whinging about two genders.
When I got into Otomes games, I was so fascinated by those who self-inserted. They get to see the game from a different perspective and likely discover things I've missed in each playthrough/route.
I apologise for how my comments may have came across. Not even two hours I put my foot in my mouth again, when talking to my dad. LOL.
I hope we both can enjoy the game! There's been some beautifully done doujin/indie(?) Yandere Otomes and BLs lately via Itichio. Did you ever play that one BL, it had 300+ votes on Reddit. The MC broke up with his Yandere boyfriend from childhood and there's even a prequel. 😻.
The art was so beautiful. I just dropped my vape in sink water, BRB going to cry and try drying it out. 😭. I'll come back with the name/link in five.