3rd event in the restaurant - take viagra and then meet Kate. Don't be wearing a chastity cage. When given the choice to deal stay at the table or go to the toilet, go to the toilet.
Events that are crossed out are disabled because of the toggleable content (feet, etc). That event in Action, reaction is an alternative if you have disabled both bondage and violence.
2nd event in Lenny Bruce is not afraid - interact with the void creature (the person you talk to when you can't progress any further) after completing 40 events in total. You should have received a notification that you can now visit him and access the event.
Alien blueprint - similar thing. Every 8 events you'll unlock a new memory with the therapist. After each one, you should receive a notification.
