Hey also a rape victim! Just because it’s a coping mechanism doesn’t mean it isn’t harmful! Playing a game where you take away women’s bodily autonomy isn’t a good coping mechanism and you should seek out therapy to find a more healthy form of coping!
If I had nickel for everytime I've heard this I'd be rich. Look I understand the desire to be kind and to heal but this stuff is fantasy and stays firmly in that realm for me. Unlike actual assault there is no harm that comes from this stuff even if a person enjoys it for simple sexual gratification. There is no fight to be won here, it's just people jerking off.