When it comes to Autumn, I think the MC is giving her the chance to discover who she is before they discover who they are
But that is just it, the MC is us but also isn't us to that degree. From what I've seen, the MC has given the girls a lot of great advice when needed, and really want's what is best for them. He doesn't play favorites but is willing to fight for them with all he has got. A great example is Ashley, she came to the hotel with almost nothing. She can't afford to stay at the hotel, but the MC lets her stay because he loves her. At one point she thought the MC would leave her if he knew the real Ashley but he still let her stay and still loves her.