I think the hardest thing about consuming media is when you have to recognize that your dislike for a character or aspect in the story comes not from an objective view (inb4 oxymoron) or a thought-out take but from simply your own experiences in life. When starting out I hated a certain character since first contact. I still don't like her, but after seeing another one in the cast go through something very similar (though a lot more tame), it struck me; my contempt was coming exclusively from my trauma.
I've been projecting my insecurities and pains on someone[thing? are NPCs "things"?] that were doing nothing but being themselves based solely on the dreaded and beholder-y "vibes". The wound gets agape when I actually have a lot in common with the heroine in question, mirroring my past of being lured into someone that could understand and relate to some aspects of myself.
Alas, again, I still don't like her. But that brings something that I always mention to my circles but utterly failed to apply to myself (as we all do when we're in situations of legitimate vulnerability); There are people we are FUNDAMENTALLY INCOMPATIBLE WITH, and there's nothing wrong with that.