I tried redoing the setup, downloading a new install off the site, adding both the main folder and the main app itself to my whitelist, restarting my laptop, deleting my browser's cache. And yes, turning my antivirus off. Nothing works
Never ever turn off your protection software. Especially if someone told you to. In the rare instance that you do have to "allow" a file you know for sure gives a false alarm, you can tell the scanner to ignore that file. Do not deactivate it wholesale.
Butler is the helper application used by the itch app in background. And also to upload games.
You said you have trouble downloading games. So why do you refer to butler specifically? You should not even see any butler app, unless you look at the processes created. Also, what does your browser cache have to do with this? The itch app is a browser all by itself. Once you have downloaded the itch app installation file, your browser has nothing to do with all this.
And what do you mean with adding the folder to your whitelist? What folder? For what purpose?
Ok...
1. I'm just trying to open the itch app on my laptop. The errors I get are
"There was a problem during setup: Timed out while connecting to butlerd"
Honestly can't remember the other one, but i t included butler 15. something (after I turned off my antivirus)
2. Turning off antivirus, was one of the main suggestions I saw, while trying to Google this
3. I don't remember mentioning games? The install, is referring to the itch app. And I mentioned butler, because that's what the error message mentions
4. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ When I was googling this, someone on reddit said clearing their browser's cache fixed the issue. So I thought I'd try it out
5. Windows Defender Whitelist. D:\Games\Itch.io (D: being my external SSD).
And again ¯\_(ツ)_/¯. Although, I think it has something to do, with making sure Windows doesn't flag it as a virus, or something
Also, https://itch.io/t/1434666/problem-during-setup-timed-out-while-connecting-to-but...
this is one of the many thing that pop up, while I was trying to fix this issue, and why I turned off my antivirus
Yes, the itch app uses some butler process to communicate with itch.
Please ignore any such advice to deactivate protection software. The official itch app is an app from an official source made by people that mostly know what they do. They would not create a thing that gets blocked by common antivirus, especially not the one distributed by the operating system. But there are "uncommon" antivirus that are acting aggressivly. If you would have one of those, some whitelisting might help. Since the itch app and the butler would seem from the outside much like malicious software that is capable of downloading and executing additional software - which in a way is precisly what it does. It is a chromium browser at core iirc and than there is this butler process.
Itch default install location for your games is in appdata. Of all places. Maybe this is what is also causing trouble.
Oh, and please, please do not white list the games installed by itch. I am serious. The itch app itself is of course no malware. But there is a ton of malware on itch and they take their time to remove it, even if it is reported. Also, many are not reported for months. I cannot stress this enough. Do not trust things, just because they are hosted on itch. Be suspicous. The criminals try their very best to circumvent any automated scans, even on multiple antivirus scanners and there is no curation process to go through to upload stuff. Sorry to dwell on this so long, as it has little to do with your problem and is meant for people landing here by searching the forum.
If you managed to get it installed, you should use the sandbox mode it provides. This gives a little bit of security, as it hinders malware from stealing your session cookie and taking your account away. Not even 2fa will protect you against that.
Late, but I'm actually glad you talked not turning of your antivirus , to get itch to work. Because that's the main thing Google recommends you to do
And sure, if you're using some obscure antivirus, then maybe that'll help? But if you're using a common one, or the one that comes built in. Then don't, unless you tried absolutely everything else
And what worked for me, was simply opening the app, then closing it from Task Manager (honestly not sure why, but it worked)
My confusion was because butler can be downloaded and used separately to upload games to Itch.
In your case the problem is the Itch app and indeed there is an installable one and it may happen that some security program interferes.
Try the following: quit itch app, open task manager, look for any remaining background processes with itch in the name and kill them. Restart itch app