Just browsing through random devlogs, not a player.
But why the fuzz about the hair color. There do be hair coloring available. I have been told, people of all persuasions dabble in that. Would experimenting with hair color not be one of the tamer acts of expressing one self? It might be a cliche, but coloring the hair seems popular among the people that self identify as queer. Although, green, pink and blue seem more popular than just boring reddish.
And yeah, the lips look like lipstick. It is pixel art, but from afar, and with that hair cut, that projects feminine vibes. No manly man would wear colored lipstick in a casual setting. And I do not count goth as casual in that regard. Oh how would the cosmetic industry love to market lipstick to males, doubling their potential customers. Manly pink fleshcolor and outdoor brown maybe. (On second thought, there are some that use eye liner.)
And a good decision to not put diversity in something, just because. It feels and is forced and does not reflect reality. People with shared interests and experiences tend to spend time together. You will just not find small random groups of friends where every demographic diversity checkbox can be ticked off.